Good Men: We Need Them

Yesterday I went with Maman (french for Mom if you didn't know), to Ft. Lauderdale to see my older brother; right now he is working on the Princess Cruise Line as a Jazz musician (he's Amazing, as soon as I can I'll create links to some of his music).

After picking him up from the usuall "Walgreens Renedvouz" we cruised on over to P.F. Chang's to enjoy my first ever dining experience at that particular restraunt. We caught up on a month of going ons (which is a book in of itself) and partook of pretty darn good chinese. Once lunch was over, we walked into the adjoing mall and took residence on a couple of rocking seats with a view of the city streets.

As we talked, conversation turned to the topic of men, and I voiced my growing opinion that most men today have taken a very lazy disposition, prefering to let the women be assertive and come to them. Such tactics creates concern (and need I say, disgust) in me; the way I see it, Men, by nature, should know how to go after what they want and be willing to fight for a women. Not the other way around.

In reply to my remarks, Trevor (in his opinionated and impactful way) said,

"That's because women have chosen to be assertive, and they make it pretty clear that they Don't Need Us."

Well, my brother, point well taken; however, I decided to take this chance to make a statement that I think needs to be heard.

Women DO NEED Men! We need, especially: GOOD MEN!

It's truely unfourtnuate that today, women don't understand what they derserve. We often allow ourselves to become involved with less than ideal boys, who use us when it's convienient, allow us to give them our hearts, and then bale when things get too serious. As a result, we become heart-broken, hardnened and NEGATIVE. In our minds we form the opinion that ALL men our jerks and we're better off without them. I can say, that I myself have wallowed in this self-pittying mindset.

Thankfully, I know better now. So much better. It's my fault that I allowed myself to be used in such a way, and that I wasn't strong enough to say "I deserve better. And Better is out there." I've realized, that really I do want and need a good man. A loving man. A caring man. Someone who will be able to treasure me and treat me with respect. Someone who will cherish the heart I give him, and in return give me his.

I have faith that such men are out there. Ladies, trust me, they are not all gone. WE just need to be patient, trust in the Greatest Man of all, even our Lord and God, and hold out until a True Man fights for our love. I've seen these men. I know these men. My father, my brothers, My grandfathers, uncles, and cousins, are all examples of AMAZING MEN. I even have a couple dear friends, and yes even ex's, that I would give this title too. It is these men who have proven to me, by their examples, words, and deeds, that I can hope for and must expect that I will find a True Man.

To all the men and boys who read this, I ask first that you forgive the sensless rantings of spurned, angry, and in every way, hurt women. In reality, all we dream about is finding love. All we pray for is gaining the admiration and affection of your hearts. Don't give up on us. Don't fall back into the world's view of how men should be. Be strong. Be good. Rise up and show us that we can trust you, and that you're worth everything.

WE truely do need you.

-Somtin'Girl